My Uncle Delbert died yesterday...that is him 2 years ago...next to him is his daughter...across from him is his wife (dark hair) and then my Aunt (his sister) across from my cousin....sad thing his death is......our family has got great genes we live a LONG time....he was 73....he was ill...several things were wrong however death is tough to accept....i can hear his laugh....he was funny the way he laughed...i think that my cousins (his sons) laugh the same way....my cousin (his daughter) was the caretaker of the family....why is it that us daughters feel compelled to become our parents..well...parents...?...my mom will be the first to tell you that i am ALWAYS calling them to check on them...and they are totally capable adults....i dont know what that is....but my cousin (his daughter) i am sure is taking this hard....i know that in her shoes that i would be too....i am leaving to go to Iowa on Saturday....i will return on Tuesday for any of you who are out there wondering where i am....but...in order to prepare myself to make sure that i am able to be the best support that i can be for my cousins...and aunts & uncles...i googled (yeah..i see all of you rolling your eyes about my googling....but hey....it is better than an encyclopedia!...) how to give meaningful support after a death. Here i go with what i learned...you can x out of my blog if you dont want to know this ... i will post something interesting tomorrow... Who knows the right thing to say to someone mourning the loss of a loved one? No one does. That's because there aren't any words that can change or improve the situation. It is a delicate situation and many people either overreach or go to the other extreme and disconnect. There's nothing you can do to eliminate the grieving process, but there are a few things you can do to help them get through it.
- Extraordinary compassion
- Intuition to know when to be present and when to back off
- Sense of humor
- Understanding of the grieving process
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